The trauma of refugees

posted in: Tony Thompson 1

In Luton, as in many parts of the UK, we are seeing an influx of refugees fleeing persecution and conflict. Even before we receive people fleeing the war in Ukraine, there are over 1,000 refugees in Luton, living in hostels and hotels waiting for resettlement. All having their own stories of trauma. Many of us are regulalarly coming into contact with them and seeking to befriend and support. Recently I came across a very helpful guide,  giving practical information on how we can best support those who have experienced trauma. Some of it is copied below, the full document can be found at –

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Normal Reactions to Trauma

Each person responds to trauma differently. It can help people to know that their reactions are normal, that reactions will often vary from day to day, and that they will go away with time. These are some normal reactions when people are overwhelmed by a traumatic experience:

  • Physical: People may find that their heart pounds and they breathe quickly. They may have headaches and stomachaches. They may have trouble sleeping or have no appetite. They may feel shaky or exhausted.
  • Mental: They may be confused and unable to concentrate or to make good decisions.
  • Emotional: They may be anxious, depressed, or overwhelmed. They may blame themselves for what happened. They may be irritable, angry or violent. They may feel numb.
  • Behavioural: They may want to be alone. They may try to avoid how they are feeling by using drugs or alcohol, working non-stop, overeating, and so forth. They may do things that, in the end, will bring them harm, like smoking, spending more than they can afford, engaging in illicit sex, and so on. They may have accidents.

Following traumatic experiences, people must grieve their losses in order to heal. Grieving is a process with ups and downs that often takes a long time.

Children’s Reactions to Trauma

Children may have unique ways of dealing with trauma and are often unable to express their feelings in words. These are some of the ways they may be affected:

  • Emotional: They may become fearful, angry and aggressive, or sad. They may lose interest in life or school. They may feel that they are somehow responsible for what happened. Older children may feel guilty that they survived when others did not.
  • Physical: Their speech may be affected. They may lose their appetite. They may complain about headaches, stomachaches, or other aches. They could have hives or asthma.
  • Behaviour: They may regress and start sucking their thumbs or wetting the bed again. They may have nightmares or bad dreams. They may cry a lot. They may be deeply upset if they lose something that matters to them, like a stuffed animal. They may do poorly in school because they cannot concentrate. Older children may struggle with using drugs or alcohol or engage in risky behavior. They may be more susceptible to self-harm.

Things that will Help Recovery

  • Finding aspects of their situation they can influence or control.
  • Connecting with available resources to begin to rebuild their lives and self-confidence.
  • Taking care of their body by eating well, exercising, and getting as much sleep as their body needs to recover.
  • Re-establishing routines and setting small goals that they can accomplish.
  • Expressing their pain. They should talk to someone who is a good listener. Write or draw about what happened and share it with someone.
  • Telling God how they are feeling, either in prayer or by writing it in a letter or lament (read Psalm 13 as an example).
  • Singing or listening to soothing music.
  • Laughing when they can. Crying as needed.
  • Spending time with people who are positive and helpful.
  • Asking for help and accepting the help others offer.
  • Learning to calm themselves with a breathing exercise.
  • When people are willing, praying aloud with and for them.

“The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18 NIV

Things that will Slow Recovery

  • Making big decisions.
  • Being very busy.
  • Drinking alcohol or drinks with too much caffeine.
  • Taking drugs to sleep.
  • Talking in public about their experience before they have had time to recover.
  • Listening to many others retell their traumas.

Telling Their Story

After a disaster, people need an opportunity to tell someone what happened to them. Telling their story is a very important part of recovery. It allows people to process what they have experienced and begin to deal with it emotionally. After people talk about the facts of their story, and their thoughts about it, also invite them to talk about their emotional experience.

If possible, meet with people individually or in a small group. If you are listening to two or more people together, encourage them to share their story but not to dwell too much on the most difficult parts, as that may traumatize the others. Things to remember:

  • Keep information confidential
  • Listen in a caring manner
  • Do not criticize or give them quick solutions
  • Do not minimize their pain by comparing it with your own pain.

These are questions that can be used to guide your listening:

  1. What happened?
  2. How did you feel?
  3. What was the hardest part?

Use these additional questions, if appropriate, to help them recognize any good things that have come from the situation:

  1. Who helped you?
  2. Were you able to help others?
  3. What gave you strength to get through?
  4. Did you see God in this situation? Explain.

If the person is not able to talk about their experience, ask them to draw a picture and then try to discuss it. Expressing feelings through art can be especially helpful for children who haven’t yet developed the ability to talk through their feelings and reactions.

Writing a lament or a letter to God expressing their feelings can be very healing. The important thing is to encourage them to be honest with God about their feelings. God is strong enough to handle honesty. With time, encourage them to remember God’s faithfulness, even in these trying circumstances.

People should be calm before they leave. Doing breathing exercises individually or in a group can help them relax before they go.

Caring for Caregivers

Caregivers have often experienced their own trauma, and can be further affected by hearing about the experiences and feelings of others. After listening sessions, someone should listen to the facilitators themselves so they can express how they were affected by what they heard and saw. This can be done individually or in a small group. Praying together for trauma victims is helpful to assist the caregivers in releasing the pain and responsibility to God, and to invite God’s power to bring victims the help they need.

Caregivers, too, can benefit greatly from drawing or writing about their feelings.

 

  1. Jane Reynolds
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    There is a lot of info here. In my limited experience for some of us it can be reduced to:

    We can all play a part in helping victims of trauma recover.
    Encourage people to tell their story.
    Encourage children to draw and talk about their drawing.
    Listen to their stories with compassion and empathy.
    Do not try to rescue them with words or actions, it re inforces the victim situation.
    Do not encourage or insist they forgive, they need time to process their emotions and come to terms with the reality of what has happened.
    Signpost them to further professional charitable help when they are ready.

    Also from my experience with children be careful when teaching the alphabet: R can be for rocket (picture books). Now we know this as a space rocket but to them the picture and the word means bomb and trauma. It can lead to good conversations but it can also trigger bad memories.

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