Testing
I have been pondering an incident described in 1 Kings 3.
Two women are living together, and each has a baby son. Overnight, one of the children dies. The mother of the dead child swaps her child for the living one, claiming it to be hers. The two mothers approach the king for his decision on what to do, how to resolve the conflict of both mothers claiming the live child as their own.
This incident is included in Scripture as an example of King Solomon’s wisdom which he demonstrated by ordering that the living child is cut in two and each mother should receive half of the baby. We are then told,
26 The woman whose son was alive was deeply moved out of love for her son and said to the king, “Please, my lord, give her the living baby! Don’t kill him!”
But the other said, “Neither I nor you shall have him. Cut him in two!”
27 Then the king gave his ruling: “Give the living baby to the first woman. Do not kill him; she is his mother.”
When I have considered this story before it has been from the viewpoint of the King. Which is natural, Solomon asked God for wisdom, and he received it. However, prompted by a recent book I have just finished, Healed and Whole: Biblical Wisdom for Men and Women in Ministry by Abigail Flavell, I have been looking at the episode from the viewpoint of the mother of the living child. Once I seek to put myself in her shoes it is overwhelming.
She is being tested in an extreme way. I can’t imagine how she must have felt when her friend swapped her living baby for a dead one. Knowing the truth but being unable to prove it. Feeling a mixture of sorrow for her friend’s loss but that being swamped with anger at the cruel stealing of her new baby. Then rather than justice being done the King intends to kill her son. It must have been unbearable. What emotions must she have been feeling when she says to let the other mother have the baby rather than for him to be killed. What kind of life does she see in front of her knowing that this other woman, who she would have perceived as evil, bringing up her son.
It recalls many other examples of testing in the Bible, Abraham when he is asked to sacrifice Isaac, the story of Job, Jesus in the wilderness. Testing, on the surface, always feels cruel. Certainly, I don’t look forward to being tested. However, Solomon’s purpose was not for evil but for good, he wanted to bring about justice. Whilst the incident was unfolding the poor woman couldn’t have known that. All of God’s testing is for our good, however whilst it is happening, we don’t know what the end of the story will be.
Often God tests us by asking us to give up things or even taking things away. Sometimes it can even feel as important as a child but fortunately that is very rare. The thing about testing is we don’t know what the outcome will be, we must trust that it is for the best, we must trust God. We know that we can trust him because the Father did not spare his own son but gave him up for us all. He then brought him back to life.
The mother in the story had to trust the fate of her son to the king, he ultimately proved wise and trustworthy. When asked to let go of things for our Father in heaven, we need to remember he is even more wise and trustworthy than King Solomon.
In her book Abi applies the lesson to her own testing of being asked to step back from her sense of calling in Christian ministry because of issues of what roles women could play in the church she and her husband were involved in. For her it felt very costly, yet she did it trusting in God. Like the mother who received her child back, Abi has received her ministry back in ways she couldn’t imagine. Abi was able to declare that God is faithful.
Hearing stories of how things turn out are helpful. However, when you are in the middle of the story, like this mother, it is by no means easy. I feel for what she went through but rejoice in the end of the story.
Tony Thompson